Lost a way in Pretending
The waywe act, things we like, things we do, our wants, our need.. is it what we are?
or is it made by the person who we are pretending to be? You must be thinking,
I am not pretending, it is who i am. But when you look back on things you did
or way you behaved, it is all part of pretending to be ‘you’. When we were
kids, our parents told us to play less and study more and we pretended to do so
for our parent’s sake. I am not saying it’s wrong but we did because someone
told us to do so. And now we are here pretending to be perfect kid to parent,
perfect partner to your loved one, perfect parent for your children. We are in
constant race of being perfect and in that race we start pretending to be who
we are, when in reality we are nowhere close to be who we are.
We
are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us
empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase
money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the end we pretend to
be successful. We date a person because he or she is available when we need
them but we are pretending to being love with them because we don’t have anyone
else. The worst of all, we pretend to be happy when deep down inside we are
sad. We can have money, success, job, partner but this will not give us
happiness. So we pretend to be happy. We tell our friends, we have wonderful
life. We don’t dare to go and explore that dark part of ourselves to know why
we are unhappy.
are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us
empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase
money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the end we pretend to
be successful. We date a person because he or she is available when we need
them but we are pretending to being love with them because we don’t have anyone
else. The worst of all, we pretend to be happy when deep down inside we are
sad. We can have money, success, job, partner but this will not give us
happiness. So we pretend to be happy. We tell our friends, we have wonderful
life. We don’t dare to go and explore that dark part of ourselves to know why
we are unhappy.
What
is happiness? Is it money? It is success? Big house? Holiday in abroad? I always
say ‘happiness is state of mind’. A beggar can be happy even with no house and
money. Beggar is person who has nothing to lose. He may not be pretending to be
someone else. He is nobody. A middle class person can be happy who has settle
job and family because he is not afraid of losing either of them. Devotee of
god is happy person because he has dedicated his entire life to god and he has
nothing to lose. Somewhere this happiness is derived from courage where we are
not afraid to lose. Being in rat race, chasing money, comparing ourselves to
others will constantly make us afraid to be loser, scared of failure. Sometime we
see other and wonder that person is so happy but in reality he is pretending to
be happy. He is the unhappy person but he is too afraid to accept that and we
are deluded with his pretending.
is happiness? Is it money? It is success? Big house? Holiday in abroad? I always
say ‘happiness is state of mind’. A beggar can be happy even with no house and
money. Beggar is person who has nothing to lose. He may not be pretending to be
someone else. He is nobody. A middle class person can be happy who has settle
job and family because he is not afraid of losing either of them. Devotee of
god is happy person because he has dedicated his entire life to god and he has
nothing to lose. Somewhere this happiness is derived from courage where we are
not afraid to lose. Being in rat race, chasing money, comparing ourselves to
others will constantly make us afraid to be loser, scared of failure. Sometime we
see other and wonder that person is so happy but in reality he is pretending to
be happy. He is the unhappy person but he is too afraid to accept that and we
are deluded with his pretending.
We havelost our way in pretending, we lost our way to be someone else. Our life always
took directions from others and now we are directionless pretending to be on
right path. In my head, I know my pretending will come to end when I accept the
reality of true self and who I can be. If you keep on pretending, it will soon
be your reality but eyes will tell the real story. I don’t have to pretend to
be liked by others similarly I don’t have to be pretending to be earning more
money or chase success.
Even
if I pretend to be happy, I will be doing by what defines me. Time will come
when that pretending will change to reality and I will no longer be afraid to
be me, whether a successful person or beggar – It will be real me!
if I pretend to be happy, I will be doing by what defines me. Time will come
when that pretending will change to reality and I will no longer be afraid to
be me, whether a successful person or beggar – It will be real me!
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