Marriage – All Glitter and No Gold
We all at some point want to get married or actually get marriedbut post marriage effect sometime affect us more than marriage process. I was
talking to my friend who recently had arrange marriage and he was bit
disappointed with life after marriage. He was wondering whether he should have
gone with love marriage than arrange. Known devil is safer than unknown one.
But does it make any difference whom you marry is known person or no? It
doesn’t! Because at the end of the day, marriage is all about ‘adjustment’!
In love marriage, even
though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball
game altogether. Either it’s arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in
adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to
expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our
likes and dislikes on others? Why can’t we live with the fact that other is not
me?
though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball
game altogether. Either it’s arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in
adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to
expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our
likes and dislikes on others? Why can’t we live with the fact that other is not
me?
We always look forperfect person, perfect relation.. It’s all illusion. There is no perfect
relation or person. Perfection lies in accepting imperfection. Why can’t we
love the person as he or she is? Obviously that will be ideal scenario where we
love the person as he or she is. I read it somewhere that 2 people in relation
are like tracks of rail. Apart from each other but still moving in the same
direction! None of the track want other to change the direction, if that
happens then the train will crash. Similarly, in marriage we can’t expect other
to change their direction else the train name marriage will crash.
Though we don’t expect
other or us to change ourselves, at the same point we can’t expect both of us
to stand like stick who doesn’t bend. Marriage is about finding that midpoint.
That centre where both of us collide. You can’t hold hand without raising it
towards other person. Both party have to change, both have to respect other
person and both have to adjust to the habit of another person.
other or us to change ourselves, at the same point we can’t expect both of us
to stand like stick who doesn’t bend. Marriage is about finding that midpoint.
That centre where both of us collide. You can’t hold hand without raising it
towards other person. Both party have to change, both have to respect other
person and both have to adjust to the habit of another person.
All the glitter is not
gold but it can be a diamond. Just like rough diamond needs little cutting and
polishing, similarly marriage needs cutting habits and polishing the
relation.
gold but it can be a diamond. Just like rough diamond needs little cutting and
polishing, similarly marriage needs cutting habits and polishing the
relation.
Arrange or love, a
good relation needs effort and we sometime forget that relations are not
ready-made. They are tailor-made.
good relation needs effort and we sometime forget that relations are not
ready-made. They are tailor-made.
